Live Happy by Bridget Grenville-Cleave and Ilona Boniwell: Review & Giveaway

Today is apparently what’s known as “Blue Monday,” the saddest day of the year. It can be hard to find reasons to be cheerful in mid-January, especially given the state of Anglo-American politics. All too often I give in to melancholy on these dark mornings. However, I aim to do better. Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project was one of the most memorable books I read in the second half of last year. What I appreciated most about it was that her approach is not about undertaking extreme actions to try to achieve happiness, but about finding contentment with the life you already have by adding or tweaking small habits.

I was keen to see what additional tips I could glean from Live Happy: 100 Simple Ways to Fill Your Life with Joy by positive psychologists Bridget Grenville-Cleave and Ilona Boniwell. They explain that about 50% of the capacity for happiness is genetic, while 10% is related to your current situation. That means that individuals are able to boost their happiness by up to 40% through their attitude and choices.

The key is to focus on what you can influence for the better. The book includes in this category things like luck, health and confidence. I found it difficult to accept the idea that I could choose to have good luck and high energy. It’s just such a foreign concept to me. But according to Grenville-Cleave and Boniwell, perceived control of one’s life course is extremely important.

Live Happy contains good generic advice on diet, use of time, relationships and forming positive habits, though the 100-item format leads to some repetition. In a few cases examples of practical application are necessary; otherwise what we have is just sound bites. For instance, “Try adopting extrovert behaviours such as assertiveness and engaging with others” and “you can also try to face problems head on, rather than simply giving up; you’ll find it easier to bounce back after misfortune.”

On the other hand, I did find specific suggestions that I plan to put into practice. A tip for being more optimistic is to wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap yourself every time you experience an Automatic Negative Thought. I also appreciated these words about making choices: “For unimportant decisions try to be satisfied with an option that is merely good enough, rather than trying to make absolutely the best choice. Lower your expectations – do not expect perfection.”

This is an attractive book, with each page containing pull quotes or whimsical drawings that tie into the blue-yellow-green palette. I would recommend it to readers of The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, A Manual for Heartache by Cathy Rentzenbrink and Option B by Sheryl Sandberg. It could also make an ideal bedside book for people who aren’t big readers but are interested in injecting a little more happiness into their everyday life.

My rating:


Live Happy was published by Modern Books on January 17th. My thanks to Alison Menzies for arranging my free copy for review.

 

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26 thoughts on “Live Happy by Bridget Grenville-Cleave and Ilona Boniwell: Review & Giveaway

  1. As a coach, I often find myself telling people about good enough decisions and worrying about the things you can control. But I’m not great at taking my own advice.

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  2. I get curious about the Studies behind all the stats. How do they know 50 percent of our happiness is genetic? How do they determine which day is the saddest day of the year?
    My husband got up that morning and wished me a Happy Depression Day! Haha!
    After all that, I do like happiness tips. The world needs more happy!

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    1. You do have to wonder how they come up with these percentages. I’ve seen similar reports in multiple places by now, though. I guess a Monday in deepest January is always going to be somewhat bleak (unless you’re in Florida or Australia). Ironically, it was also the anniversary of my brother-in-law’s death, so definitely a tough day in my family.

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      1. Oh, I can answer the how do they estimate how much happiness is genetic one! Identical twin studies! Separated twins share DNA but not an environment, so I’m pretty sure the degree to which they end up similar is often used for to estimate how much something is genetic. Writing this, I’m wondering how many separated twins there are though and if maybe studies like this are done with other people and estimates are made based on both how similar they are and how similar they are genetically? I’m sure twin studies are a thing, but my knowledge here could be a lot deeper 🙂

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  3. I like the “good enough” advice – sometimes I put that into practice at a restaurant with too many choices. Whatever I pick I’m sure I’ll enjoy, and if I don’t, oh well! It’s just a meal. Also, along with the rubber band thing – sometimes if I am spiraling into worry about something I will actually say out loud “You’re spiraling, Laila!” It seems to pull me back into the present.

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    1. Ah, I was thinking you had a Christmas birthday. Definitely no reason to be Blue that day, then! Your birthday is the day before my sister’s. It must give you something nice to look forward to. For a lot of us I know January can feel like quite the slog. I’m glad to be into February now, and to have enjoyed some snow.

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